What is Fair?

If you have more than one kid, you have heard something like this... "Mom, she got the...!  IT ISN'T FAIR!!" Fairness is something that we learn about at a very early age.  As a mum, I certainly remember giving my little ones bite sized pieces of whatever and having them grab for the bigger hunk.  Fairness is important.  James complains everyday that Charlotte has a phone and he doesn't.  We have told him he will get his when he is twelve, like his sister did, see FAIR, but that's apparently not good enough.
Is it fair that I modify all of James' homework (with his teachers' permission) so that he has less to do than his classmates?  YUP
Is it fair that James is allowed to type some assignments when his friends have to write it out? YUP
Is it fair that James is allowed to sit where he wants at lunch instead of where the rest of his class sits because the peanut free table has less kids? YUP
Is it fair that James gets breaks when he needs them in the classroom during particularly stressful times in the day? YUP
Is it fair that James has a team of people behind him who have a vested interest in keeping him successful in school? YUP

It is called an IEP!! 

Is it fair that everything James does takes conscious thought and intense preparation on his part and years of intensive training because nothing came naturally?  Is it fair? NOPE!!
Is it fair that I am going to subject you to an animal study experiment?   I hope you understand that I don't like animal experimentation, but this is really impressive.  Enjoy